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What Now?

Once you get a good long distance friendship going you may find yourself thinking, what now? When you start thinking that it may be time for a change. After all, interests change and it is much better to make an adjustment than to continue with something you find boring. And chances are that your friend is thinking the same thing. So how do you do it? Here are some ideas and things that I have found work well.

- Be creative. Use your imagination and think about what you like to do with the friends you see all the time. Then find a way to turn that into something you and your long distance friend can do. For example my friend and I loved pioneers so we invented a game to play and on our weekly phone calls we played it. Then we started a diary about the game. Finally we turned the diaries into a book. We haven't finished it yet but it was so much fun. We had to progress through some stages and adjust to our interests. So be creative, work with your interests, and don't be afraid to try new things.

- Try new things. Trying new things is a very good way to find something new and fun to do. Try things you like and some things your friend likes. Be open minded to the things your friend likes. You can also ask other people for ideas too.

- More ideas. Some things that work well for me are writing a book, inventing a game, calling and doing a craft together ( this works well with video calls) decorating each others room for a holiday ( this also is good with a video call), making up a code to write each other with, planning something ( such as a birthday party, this can help you feel involved even if you can't be there), start a club, read the same book and then talk about it, the possibilities are endless.

Working together to find some new thing is a great way to bond too. Look around, be creative, try new things, and above all have fun.         

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